Dating in Indonesia can feel different for foreigners due to culture shock. The many terms for relationship status may be one of the first things you’ll encounter in Indonesia.
As shown in the viral video @indonesianwithlauren, foreigners will be surprised by the number of terms for relationship status in Indonesia.
For expats, it’s no surprise that there are some dating terms you’ll only hear and know about. Plus, some of the younger generation are using new dating terms.
Yes, there are tons of dating relationship terms. Let’s engage in the process of unpacking them one by one.
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PDKT
PDKT is the approach period at the beginning of a relationship with a crush. At this time, people are more focused on finding compatibility by looking at their crushes’ strengths and weaknesses.PDKT people will invite intense communication, either through WhatsApp chat or telephone, to chat directly. It is not uncommon to go out or on a date once or twice before entering the stage of expressing love.
Gebetan
Gebetan in slang refers to a person you like. Gebetan can also be referred to as crush. Remember, crushes are temporary feelings, and they may disappear quickly. However, there are also people who have crushes for years.
TTM (Teman Tapi Mesra)
You may also know this as “friends with benefits” or “no-strings-attached.” You’re not a couple (for various reasons), but you’re intimate with each other. The idea is that you agree to have an intimate relationship with no love involved and no demands to be attached. However, these relationships rarely work out as expected. It’s usually because one person falls in love with the other.
HTS (Hubungan Tanpa Status)
HTS or a relationship without status can mean they may be dating but not a couple. The relationship is determined by what the individuals involved do.
People in a relationship without status (HTS) can explore different parts of their lives. They can also discover what works best for them. This relationship will appeal to those needing more time to commit.
CLBK (Cinta Lama Bersemi Kembali)
CLBK stands for “old love rekindled.” The term refers to a situation in which two people who were once in a romantic relationship reunite after a separation or breakup.
Pacar
Pacar is a permanent lover who has a mental relationship based on love. In English, it is known as boyfriend and girlfriend, but the word pacar in Indonesia is more gender-neutral and can be used for both men and women.
Mantan
Mantan is a nickname or designation for someone who has a close relationship with us. If he/she is worth fighting for, then there is nothing wrong with trying to make love again.
Those are the relationship terms in Indonesia. Do you have any more?
